Friday 14 June 2013

Listen to me, baby!


So Jiah Khan's suicide note is out and like many of us, I read it too. Probably unlike many of us, I felt bothered and moved and definitely compelled to spare it a thought.

"I gave you everything...I was working for us but you never valued." I have heard this so many times (No! I wasn't Jiah's friend). I have heard it time and again from my friends who are in a relationship, forget happy or unhappy. What I am sure of is, not everybody pays attention to this complaint from their partner. We often assume that as the relationship grows or matures, there has to be lesser space for sweet nothings or there has to be more of a dry behavior.

We assume, we believe and therefore, we act. Independent of the gender, this complaint is never well received. What bothers me, is 'why'? Because we think its cool to be careless about someone who cares for us? Or, it is supposedly uncool to reveal our exact feelings, unaltered. A relationship is better warm than cold (read cool)...isn't it? There are hoards of articles online that say why your spouse should not be your BFF. Nobody talks about why the person you call your better half should be entitled to know the whole of your heart. I don't advocate the idea of 'i'll stick to your back, baby' but darlings and sweethearts may be let into the restricted space as well. A BFF is a blessing, undoubtedly but did you just accept your partner as a curse? It needs a grey matter provocation over a heart and tears combo of temporary emotions that arise and end in the middle of nowhere.

There are ups and downs in every relationship and I more than agree to it. Not that because I am a female, I tend to overlook the male's point of view and therefore, I totally agree to the fact that gender has nothing to do with emotional exhaustion. It feels disgusted to be cheated and that is it! Neither a guy nor a girl feels happy about it but even then, women are perceived as dramatic and overtly emotional. Its alright to shed a tear at anything or just everything than drive someone to an insane decision of suicide. You agree?

Its alright to scream at the top of your voice at someone you consider close than let your silence kill them. (this one is for you, guys!)

Having nurtured a relationship, a pretty long and happy one (touch wood! yes!! I am protective about it), the only thing that has kept us going is the willingness and ability to sit face to face and talk about just anything that's bothering any one of us.

Talk! Talk! and then Walk your Talk!